John has been attending counselling sessions for several months seeking help with the difficulties he is finding in dealing with his relationship break-up. He and his partner were together for ten years and have two children, a boy aged 9 and a girl aged 7. John has access to them every other weekend and for […]
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How to Address Bullying: Assessing the Next Steps
Depending on the outcomes so far, you should use the following guidelines: Un-Happy Reflect back on your 1st and 2nd discussions with the teacher. Use this information to write a letter to the principal outlining the situation. Make sure you are calm and not insultive to the school or the teacher. Ask for an appointment […]
- June 3, 2008
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How to Address Bullying: Evaluate the School’s Response
The fourth step (click the links to review steps 1, 2 & 3) in addressing bullying involves evaluating the school’s response. After having a follow-up meeting with teachers and other relevant school staff, document what was discussed in the meeting, including the date, the meeting attendant’s names and positions, and details of what was discussed and agreed […]
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How to Address Bullying: Consult with Teachers
The third step (click the links to review steps 1 and 2) in addressing bullying involves helping your child develop positive strategies. Below are three types of strategies to consider. Depending on the age of your son/daughter you can adjust these to suit. In all behaviour modifying situations, there are proactive and reactive strategies to […]
- May 29, 2008
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How to Address Bullying: Consult with Teachers
The second step in addressing bullying involves consulting your child’s teacher/s. To successfully combat bullying behaviour teachers need to be involved. If your child is in primary school you should meet with his/her teacher, however if your child is in high school it is better to meet with the Home Room Teacher. When you meet […]
- May 27, 2008
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How to Address Bullying: Listen To Your Child
There are four simple steps to take when addressing bulling. Each step is just as important as the other, so ensure you put the same thought and effort into each step. We’ll explore each of these steps in the upcoming posts: Listen To Your Child Consult with Teachers Help Your Child Develop Positive Strategies Evaluate […]
- May 26, 2008
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Child Bullying: Your Feelings as a Parent
If you believe that your child is a victim of bullying, you are most probably experiencing two reactions. Firstly, outrage, coupled with other emotions such as confusion and guilt. Secondly, this may raise memories of your own experiences with bullying – either as being bullied, as the bully or as a bystander. It is absolutely […]
- May 22, 2008
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The Downward Spiral of Bullying
The act of bullying usually does not just happen. A child is not bully-free one day and then a victim of full-blown bullying the next. If this was the case, victims of bullying would be more likely able to react more proactively against the bullying behaviour. It is believed that bullying involves a gradual and […]
- May 20, 2008
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Common Myths about Bullying
The knowledge many people have about bullying is based on myths and misunderstandings. These can be dangerous because these attitudes may make you double guess yourself and your reactions to bullying. The following table contains six of the most misconstrued myths about bullying. ‘We don’t have bullying in our school’ Bullying occurs in all schools […]
- May 16, 2008
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What is Bullying?
According to the Victorian Education Department bullying is defined as: ‘when someone, or a group of people, who have more power at the time, deliberately upset or hurt another person, their property, reputation or social acceptance on more than one occasion.’ Understanding bullying becomes clearer when we identify examples from the 3 categories of bullying […]
- May 14, 2008
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Child Bullying: Signs
In most cases a child will not tell an adult that they are being bullied and the school may not be aware of any subtle changes in a child’s behaviour. Therefore it is crucial for parents to identify when their child is experiencing a problem. If you have noticed that your child’s attitude, behaviour or […]
- May 12, 2008
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Series: Coping with Your Child Being Bullied
Long gone are the days when the phrase ‘sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me’ was used to toughen the kids in the school playground. Bullying is now an issue that is taken very seriously by parents and schools. Research over the past 25 years confirms that bullying is […]
- May 9, 2008
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Fostering the Development of Children’s Self-Esteem
Self esteem is… a person’s overall assessment of her or his personal adequacy or worth. (Weiten, 1998) feelings of self-worth stemming from the individual’s positive or negative beliefs about being valuable and capable. www.dphilpotlaw.com/html/glossary.html feeling good about yourself. It means liking yourself and being content with, and even proud of, who you are.(Hartley-Brewer, 2004) a […]
- April 21, 2008
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Communication and Childhood Anxiety
Childhood worries and anxiety are a common challenge for many parents. In this post, we will be considering a cognitive-behavioural approach to working with children and their worries. A cognitive-behavioural approach works most effectively with children who are able to think in a structured sequence and understand cause and effect. This makes it more appropriate […]
- April 14, 2008
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Common Communication Challenges for Parents
This post provides an overview of working with parents on common challenges of parenting. In particular, this chapter considers how to work with parents whose children are displaying aggressive behaviour or suffering from anxiety. To work on these issues it is crucial that parents have developed a parent-child relationship based on solid communication and trust. […]
- April 11, 2008
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