{"id":270,"date":"2007-08-20T16:30:35","date_gmt":"2007-08-20T06:30:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.counsellingconnection.com\/index.php\/2007\/08\/20\/types-of-affairs\/"},"modified":"2016-04-21T11:45:42","modified_gmt":"2016-04-21T01:45:42","slug":"types-of-affairs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.counsellingconnection.com\/index.php\/2007\/08\/20\/types-of-affairs\/","title":{"rendered":"Types of Affairs"},"content":{"rendered":"

Knowing the type of infidelity sometimes makes understanding it a little easier. Was it a one night stand or a long term affair? Was it due to mid life crisis or an act of retaliation? Is there a sexual addiction or did he\/she want the marriage to end?<\/p>\n

There are several types of affairs which include:<\/p>\n

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  1. The curiosity affair<\/strong> — where one is bored and curious about the excitement of having an external relationship.<\/li>\n
  2. The unintended affair<\/strong> — a simultaneous attraction occurs in an environment outside the relationship.<\/li>\n
  3. The compulsive affair<\/strong> — often initiated by one with a risk taking and adventurous personality.<\/li>\n
  4. The retaliative affair<\/strong> — is motivated by revenge and serves the purpose of equalising the wrongs. But do two wrongs equal a right?<\/li>\n
  5. The split self affair<\/strong> — this happens when the needs of others are put before those of oneself, and the deprivation catches up. Usually a long term affair because decisions are avoided.<\/li>\n
  6. The distance regulator<\/strong> — the relationship is usually over but tolerated for reasons which may include the children and security.<\/li>\n
  7. Out the door affair<\/strong> — an “excuse” for leaving the relationship. This occurs when the relationship is over for the betrayer but wants a quick way out. Often clues are left for a quick discovery.<\/li>\n
  8. Empty nest affairs<\/strong> — where couples have lived their lives around the children and have found that the empty nest is too empty and lonely.<\/li>\n
  9. Sexual addiction<\/strong> — when the couple’s sexual drive is not equalised and the betrayer goes in search of sexual satisfaction outside the relationship.<\/li>\n
  10. Intimacy avoiders<\/strong> — being intimate with someone outside the relationship helps retain distance from your partner. It is a means to staying absent.<\/li>\n
  11. Conflict avoidance<\/strong> — an affair to control and diffuse anger, and avoid arguments and difference of opinion.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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