http://www.counsellingconnection.com/index.php/2007/09/10/getting-through-it/ Training and content in counselling and life effectiveness Mon, 16 Jan 2012 11:28:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.counsellingconnection.com/index.php/2007/09/10/getting-through-it/#comment-476 Editor Mon, 10 Sep 2007 23:32:23 +0000 http://www.counsellingconnection.com/index.php/2007/09/10/getting-through-it/#comment-476 That's a great insight Gai - thanks for sharing it! That’s a great insight Gai – thanks for sharing it!

]]> http://www.counsellingconnection.com/index.php/2007/09/10/getting-through-it/#comment-472 Gai Mon, 10 Sep 2007 11:37:32 +0000 http://www.counsellingconnection.com/index.php/2007/09/10/getting-through-it/#comment-472 When I experienced infidelity I found that I was totally consumed by it 24/7 for several weeks. No matter how hard I tried I could not think positive thoughts or even try and relax and I am a strong person. What I found helpful was supportive friends who would sit and let me talk for as long as I needed. You have so many thoughts and questions running thru your head and you just need to get them out. I also learnt to take 1 step at a time, if I could just get thru the next 5 minutes etc. When things became too bad I would take a deep breath and say to myself "this too shall pass". The times when I was consumed by anger and unable to express it I would put loud music on and dance the anger out. I learnt how to nurture myself and be gentle with myself whilst I went thru the healing process. I personally think that the key to healing yourself is the desire to do so. When I experienced infidelity I found that I was totally consumed by it 24/7 for several weeks. No matter how hard I tried I could not think positive thoughts or even try and relax and I am a strong person. What I found helpful was supportive friends who would sit and let me talk for as long as I needed. You have so many thoughts and questions running thru your head and you just need to get them out. I also learnt to take 1 step at a time, if I could just get thru the next 5 minutes etc. When things became too bad I would take a deep breath and say to myself “this too shall pass”.
The times when I was consumed by anger and unable to express it I would put loud music on and dance the anger out. I learnt how to nurture myself and be gentle with myself whilst I went thru the healing process. I personally think that the key to healing yourself is the desire to do so.

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